Life is changing all the time and you should have so many choices
every minute, but each of your choices is a reflection of your internal values.
I have a friend since 2011
that`s taught me some important things, his name is Ian Reid.
The first thing that he tried
teaching me was not to be so worried about appearance. I traveled abroad
to the USA and in my mind I have had some ideas about the people, about the
goods and about richness, but what I saw surprised me because was completely
different than what I imagined. I saw people like us, people who are open mind,
people who worry about other people, I saw simplicity.
Every day you choose your destiny, you choose if you will be a
winner or how you will survive, but what does it all mean?
You can be a rich person on the outside or inside - you can
have a lot of things to show other people that you are an important person or
you could improve your soul to do more for other people, respecting your pace
and respecting the others pace.
Doing something for another person is not a big deal, and
you could do it by doing little things that are no less important, like:
- look in the person eyes while you are talking or listening
- stop your car and wait while people are crossing the street
- not litter (throw garbage away outside of trash cans)
- pick garbage up even if it was not you that put it in the wrong place
- respect other people’s mood
- respect your time as well as other people’s time
- remember that the world does not revolve around you
My friend works with children and to do his job is much
important see life like a gift.
The relationship is based in respect. Sometimes your
career`s dream is growth. Sometimes you don`t really know where you will stop
and you aren’t sure if you can believe your dream is legitimate; but when you
think about putting it into practice to achieve your targets and growth you
need to remember that increasing your appearance to show that you are
developing like a rocket isn`t a good thing if you do not grow in your
relationship.
“Simply, if you are not authentic, if you are not respectful to others and to society, you have not pace, integrity, respect to yourself when you’ll achieve your targets, if you arrive there.”
Do you think about your mood for today? Be patient, don`t
be anxious all the time, see your day like a gift...
I`ll explain a little bit more about my friend job (using
his words):
“I work at a preschool and high school. Right now I
have a few more than 55 students. I see each one at least once a week for half an
hour. We practice different skills, then it’s up to them and their teachers to
continue with those skills while I am gone.
Here’s part of my last Monday morning, I work with moderate to severely disabled preschoolers then. They are all 3-5 years old. I have several autistic children that are still learning language, or even basic cause and effect or joint attention. If a child has difficulty with basic cause and effect, I might spend half an hour offering bubbles and waiting for them to say buh once to give them bubbles five times. The rest of that time is spent encouraging them to have some communicative intent. Another is echolalic. They won’t answer any questions, but will instead repeat back the last portion of a sentence for whatever I said. It’s actually a good thing, because it eventually develops into language. Another student has the idea to act like a baby because it is a well defined social role, so I have to use a social story to explain that acting like a baby is not appropriate, and it is more appropriate to act like a student because it will make other people happy (it really is a propaganda story). Another student has severe cerebral palsy and has to stay in a wheelchair.
After a year of work, they finally have enough motor coordination to say two words in a row. I tested another student with a syndrome that caused a cleft lip and palate (that has now been repaired) who is having difficulty with closing her velopharyngeal port (what connects the oro and nasopharynx, so the airflow in the throat as it extends above the mouth into the nose). This causes nasal speech. She also had a variety of sounds she made substitutions because she had some mislearning before her cleft palate was repaired.
..... I am also lucky because I work with high school students. I am able to see what being in the system and working on their goals, skills, and abilities is able to accomplish. Students who are still moderate severe are in a vocational/work program. They teach students to work on basic lifestyle and household skills so that they can be independent as possible. They are also taught to take the school bus, work for a store for an hour or two, and take the bus back to school 1 to 3 times a week. They are allowed to stay in the program until they are 22. I have now worked at the high school for 3 years and have been able to see 2 years of graduates transition from the high school into work programs for adults with disabilities.
There are also other options for students in the mild-moderate program. They are more focused on academics, but taught at a slower rate (so students are taught algebra over 2 years instead of 1). They are able to go to a program once they graduate at a community college so that they can be guided and work while they are taking college classes. I still run into a student who graduated from my first year working at the high school and is almost done with community college and is now preparing to transfer to a university next year.
I know that when I am working with students that are young, progress is slow and very difficult for even the basics that most people take for granted. I know that from these basic skills, they will be able to keep growing and keep improving themselves so that they have choices for what to do in life, no matter how severe their disability.” Ian Reid
How can someone choose to do that? I really know that`s a beautiful choice. He choose every
day like a gift and he does his best all the time.
We choose our life thinking ONLY in money or could we
choose our destiny based on other values to?
What you will teach for your son?
What they will think about your past life?
Good things happen to you when you take care of people, not things!
